Self-Acceptance vs Personal Growth
I googled “blogs of smart people” to see what dose I can enjoy on a chilled Sunday evening. But before that, a little diversion – Reena was in town on Saturday night which turned out (as expected knowing the girl’s ways!) to a big one. She had a friend visiting her the next morning at 9am for breakfast at Discovery Bay. Her friend never slept himself, came straight from a yacht trip. We started with breakfast and coffees but ended up with sangrias which, under my assurance, were supposed to work wonders, ie sort us all out. Reena ended up with a severe headache and her friend could barely walk to the ferry. I, on the other hand, was all sharp and sobered up, ready for what the day could bring.
Back to my Sunday finds. I came across a website that got me really thinking over the past few days. None of the things here may sound like anything novel, but I guess it’s the simplicity of thought that we sometimes lose out to.
Check: http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2006/04/self-acceptance-vs-personal-growth/
The guy addresses an issue I’ve been pondering over the last few months – the rat race, the grind you find yourself in. In essence, what he’s saying is: if you just accept the way you are today it’s sheer complacency, laziness. If you want to grow as a person, you end up in a constant race for an ever-moving goal. We pitch and win 1mln bucks business, live in euphoria for 1 week. The following next week we want to win more, better and faster. We aren’t happy with the previous achievement and our self-esteem suffers. Where do you stop? How do you find an optimal point of happiness and internal peace?
He suggests rooting your self to a permanent cause – one that nobody and nothing can challenge and… move, hence accepting yourself they way you are. The examples he’s giving are passion for a cause, faith, compassion, dedication to nonviolence. He’s not saying one should stop striving for growth – the idea is: that growth desire should not be the core source of one’s happiness. I would like to think I can fully embrace it, but I know I do not in its entirety. Or maybe I just have not found it. But seek I will.
Andrew and I went to check out a meditation centre the other day in Tin Hau. I want to get back into it, as I have lots more to learn. The benefits of meditation I experience in India were amazing, but like everything else, it needs discipline and … time. The sense of peace and awakening is something I crave and want to make a permanent part of my life.
Think about it.
Back to my Sunday finds. I came across a website that got me really thinking over the past few days. None of the things here may sound like anything novel, but I guess it’s the simplicity of thought that we sometimes lose out to.
Check: http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2006/04/self-acceptance-vs-personal-growth/
The guy addresses an issue I’ve been pondering over the last few months – the rat race, the grind you find yourself in. In essence, what he’s saying is: if you just accept the way you are today it’s sheer complacency, laziness. If you want to grow as a person, you end up in a constant race for an ever-moving goal. We pitch and win 1mln bucks business, live in euphoria for 1 week. The following next week we want to win more, better and faster. We aren’t happy with the previous achievement and our self-esteem suffers. Where do you stop? How do you find an optimal point of happiness and internal peace?
He suggests rooting your self to a permanent cause – one that nobody and nothing can challenge and… move, hence accepting yourself they way you are. The examples he’s giving are passion for a cause, faith, compassion, dedication to nonviolence. He’s not saying one should stop striving for growth – the idea is: that growth desire should not be the core source of one’s happiness. I would like to think I can fully embrace it, but I know I do not in its entirety. Or maybe I just have not found it. But seek I will.
Andrew and I went to check out a meditation centre the other day in Tin Hau. I want to get back into it, as I have lots more to learn. The benefits of meditation I experience in India were amazing, but like everything else, it needs discipline and … time. The sense of peace and awakening is something I crave and want to make a permanent part of my life.
Think about it.
posted by Magdalena Wszelaki @ 11:56 PM
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